Do You Owe Yourself Time To Feel?
Honouring Loss when you have a chronic illness or want to prevent one
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I'm sorry for dropping off the radar this year.
Big things happen in life that can stop us in our tracks and force us to re-evaluate everything.
Following the loss of my mother, I knew that the kindest and healthiest thing I could do was to give myself all the space and time possible to feel and heal. I'm still in that process.
We live in a society that values productivity, positivity and bouncing back. These things are seen as signs of strength and grit. But are they?
Would it be braver and more honest to intentionally and actively mourn our loss? To allow space for what is arising to be felt in a safe way? To release the illusion of control and be receptive and curious about a new path that might unfold.
Grief and loss relate not only to the death of a loved one but also to the loss of hopes and aspirations, the loss of identity and image when we can no longer do what we did or be the person we once were due to chronic illness. It can relate to any significant loss.
Do you resonate with any of these?
Have you allowed yourself time and space to feel your loss?
When we do so intentionally and consistently, in small doses and with support, healing and growth can come.
This is the medicine of life.
It can only heal us if we choose to move through.